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The Importance of Not Going to Sleep Mad at Night

"Let it go! Honestly, just let it go" -- I told myself many times. Yet, I tended to go to sleep mad at whomever deserved it. Ohhh I was gonna show 'em how mad I could get! Ohhh I was gonna show them that I could be mean!! Ohhhh I was.... I was a dumb person for thinking that way. That's what I was. Yes, it is true that some people deserve to see the not-so-pretty side of us, so that they learn not to mess with us, but the truth is that nobody will mess with us if we don't allow it. PERIOD. We are responsible of our happiness as much as our sadness, except if of course we endure the loss of someone we love, but even then, we still have the option to be sad and miss them crying, or be happy and remember them smiling.

I don't like going to sleep mad for 3 main reasons:

  1. I get mad because the other person has failed to make me happy, so I go to bed unhappy, making my unhappiness worse. Therefore, I wake up mad, and the other person might care or might not care. If they care enough to try to make it better; chances are it wont work because I am still mad. But if they don't care enough, they might just ignore us even more turning our unhappiness into misery. The result? Insanity!
  2. (I know this will sound a little drastic, but I don't like taking chances. ) I would forever regret going to bed mad if I or the other person never made it to see another beautiful day. I know- I know!! What are the chances? Maybe it is very unlikely to happen, but I am sure it has happened to someone out there where they just never got to say sorry. I chose NOT TO experience that if it's in my power to prevent it. Whether I am wrong or not; I will make sure that an argument won't last longer than it should. I will use a subtle tone of voice and sweet words. I always keep the words sweet, because I never know when time will come and I might have to swallow them. 
  3. At the end of the day, problems are really not that huge of a deal. Everything has a solution. It is not worth the extra white hairs, extra wrinkles and anxiety attacks. I don't live to make people happy so that they can make me happy. I live to be happy so I can make others happy. It might almost sound the same, but it is not. 
Those are my main three reasons why I chose not to go to bed mad. When I have a little disagreement with my husband; I will talk to him about it in a way where I will have ears to hear and will power to respect what he has to say and understand how valuable is his input and feelings. It is not "my way or the high way" relationships like that don't last, and if they last they don't reach their full potential of what a relationship is intended to do. Communication is KEY ...always. 

If you struggle with that, think of the three reasons I just gave you. Maybe you have more reasons not to go to bed mad, if so please feel free to share them. 

Our happiness is in our hands. Take charge!! Sending hugs and good vibes your way. 💖


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